Every time a child cries, throws a fit, or says “no,” plans get altered. Whether it’s skipping dinner, canceling study time, or avoiding sleep schedules—emotions begin to dictate the rules.
Responding to big emotions with empathy is necessary, but letting tantrums lead decisions teaches children that outbursts equal control. Children learn emotional regulation from how caregivers respond, not from getting their way.
How to rebuild authority:
Instead of reacting to the noise, staying steady and calm makes a difference. “I see you’re upset, and we can talk after you calm down” helps the child feel seen but not in charge of the outcome. This approach builds both emotional intelligence and respect.
