Away from the confines of close family and relatives, all children need social connections to grow, evolve and come out on their own. Regardless of the age, all kids need to have friends not just to play with, but also to navigate life with someone their own age. However, if your child is an introvert, then it might be challenging for him/her to make new friends. This is especially true for single children, who do not have a sibling at home, and do not interact much with cousins. However, there are some simple ways to get your child to make friends and develop social skills. Here are 7 of them…
Why do children struggle to make friends in the first place
Shyness or social anxiety: Some kids feel nervous or scared around new people.Lack of social skills: Children may not know how to start conversations or join in play.Different interests: If your child’s hobbies or personality differ from others, they may feel left out.Low confidence: Children who doubt themselves may avoid social situations.Bullying or exclusion: Negative experiences can make kids hesitant to reach out.How to help your child
Group activities
One of the best ways for children to make friends is by joining group activities. These can be sports teams, dance classes, art clubs, or any hobby groups, even a book club! Group settings provide natural opportunities for kids to meet peers with similar interests.
When children share activities, they find it easier to start conversations and bond over common goals. Encourage your child to try different activities until they find one they enjoy. This also boosts their confidence and social skills.
Teach Basic Social Skills
Sometimes children struggle to make friends because they don’t know how to interact with others. Teaching simple social skills can make a big difference. These include:How to say hello and introduce themselvesHow to ask questions and listenHow to share and take turnsHow to join a game or conversation politelyYou can practice these skills at home through role-playing or by watching videos together.
Build confidence in your child
Confidence plays a big role in making friends. Children who believe in themselves are more likely to approach others and join social activities. Here are ways to boost your child’s self-confidence:Celebrate their achievements, no matter how smallEncourage them to try new thingsAvoid criticizing or comparing them to othersTeach them to handle rejection kindly and keep trying
Arrange playdates/gatherings
Sometimes large groups or busy playgrounds can overwhelm shy children. Organizing small playdates with one or two children can be more comfortable and effective. In a calm (and familiar) setting, your child can get to know others better and build trust.You can start by inviting classmates or neighbors for a short visit at your home or a nearby park. Keep the activities simple and fun, like playing board games, drawing, or outdoor games.
Be a role model
Children learn a lot by watching their parents and adults around them. Show your child how to be friendly and kind by modeling good social behavior. Greet neighbors warmly, talk politely with friends, and show empathy in your interactions.You can also involve your child in social activities with family or friends, helping them observe and practice social skills in real life.
Encourage kindness
Teaching your child to be kind and understand others’ feelings helps them build strong friendships. When children show empathy, they attract friends who feel valued and respected.You can encourage empathy by discussing emotions, reading stories about kindness, and praising your child when they help or comfort others.
Use positive enforcements
Making friends takes time and practice. Celebrate your child’s small successes and encourage them to keep trying without pressure. Avoid pushing them into social situations they are awkward with. Use positive words and rewards to motivate your child. Eventually he/she will be able to cultivate their own social skills.
