For a child, his parents are his first teachers. Despite long hours at school, children spend the maximum time at home, where their parents’ behavior directly impacts their mental well-being. Children mirror their parents in more ways than one thinks, and leading by example is of paramount importance for parents. Children, especially young ones, tend to copy what they see at home. This means that dangerous or unhealthy behaviours from parents can influence children in extreme ways. While this might be completely unintentional, here are 5 dangerous behaviours of parents that children might mimic (make amends before it is too late)
Inability to express themselves
Many children learn how to express their feelings by watching their parents. If parents often shout, argue loudly, or use harsh words, children may think this is the normal way to communicate. Not only that, a lot of adults also struggle with the inability to express themselves, sending a signal that it is weak to cry or feel sad.This, in turn, can harm a child’s social skills and relationships. It can also lead to emotional problems like anxiety or low self-esteem.How can you help: Practice calm and respectful communication. Tell your kids that it is okay to not be okay. Show children how to talk about feelings without anger. Apologize when you lose your temper, so that kids know that it is okay to make mistakes, and then make amends.
Substance abuse/neglecting their health
Parents who ignore health and safety issues in front of their children, such as not wearing seat belts, smoking, or neglecting regular medical checkups, send a message that these things are not important. Children often copy these habits, thinking it must be okay to do so.
For example, if a parent smokes, children are more likely to start smoking as teenagers, which in turn can ruin their life.How can you help: Follow safety rules consistently and explain why they matter. Show children healthy habits like eating nutritious food, exercising, and visiting the doctor regularly.
Excessive use of technology
In today’s digital world, many parents spend a lot of time on phones, tablets, or watching TV. When children see their parents glued to screens, they may want to do the same. Excessive screen time can affect a child’s physical health, sleep, and social skills.
Children might also pick up bad habits like using rude language (As seen on TV) If parents use devices during meals, or ignore children while on phones, kids may feel neglected and copy these behaviours.How can you help: Set limits on screen time for the whole family and make meals a strict no devices zone. Watch age appropriate shows together, rather than making kids go to their room when you are watching something.
Poor handling of stress
How parents deal with stress greatly influences their children. If parents react to stress by yelling, blaming others, or giving up easily, children may not be able to handle difficulties in the future.Children might develop anxiety or feel helpless when facing problems. They may avoid challenges or respond with anger instead of thinking calmly.How can you help: Show healthy ways to manage stress, like talking about feelings, exercising, or practicing deep breathing. Teach children problem-solving skills and encourage them to stay positive even when things are tough.
Dishonesty (and not just with their kids)
Children learn the value of honesty by watching their parents. If parents lie, hide the truth, or frequently break promises, (even amidst themselves/or with relatives) children may think it is okay to do the same. This can harm their trustworthiness and relationships with others.Dishonesty can lead to bigger problems at school and later in life. When children see adults not keeping their word, they may feel confused about what is right and wrong.How can you help: Always be honest with your children, even when it is difficult. Keep your promises or explain why you cannot. Teach children that honesty builds trust and respect.
